There is some area of your life where you are not ok. I know there is for me and I am pretty confident there is for you as well: You do not know how to fix your car. You are depressed. You are not losing weight like you want to. Your marriage is broken. You need to move houses. Your kids are completely rebellious and you are not sure what to do next. Your spouse is going to be out of town and you need help with the yard. You are overwhelmed at work. You are addicted to the pain killers from that surgery two years ago. In all of these it is clear you need someone to come alongside you and help. Yet here is the thing I have noticed. Most people do not ask for help. In general, we just do not ask.
For some reason we have been trained to think asking for help is the wrong thing to do. I must manage it on my own. I must solve the problem by myself. Young and old, black and white, male and female alike, have all been convinced that you should just be able to figure “it” out. If I do ask, it must be because I am a failure. This needs to change. It is a sign of strength and wisdom to ask for help, not a sign of weakness or stupidity. It is ok to not be ok. It is not ok to stay that way. Often the answer to moving past not being ok is realizing it it ok to ask for help.