There are sudden collisions and accidents.  Some things come out of no where and side swipe us.  These things rearrange our world in an instant.  We begin to contemplate what and who we value after some of these situations or how we are spending our time or money.  We get jolted.  This happens and it may just work.  But I want to propose something.  I am pretty sure, at least in my experience, that something happens to us that is often more dangerous than a sudden, out of left field crisis.  It is the slow fall, or fade or the drift.  The reality is that most of us do have sudden crashes that wake us up.  This is because most of get so good at navigating life that we can avoid major disruptions. However, even though we do not crash, we end up in destinations we never really wanted to.  Something happens that most of us do not even notice.  We do not drive recklessly to the wrong location, we slowly fall and fade from our desired destination and end up at the wrong place.  We never intend to be 40 pounds over weight.  We do not set out to be absent fathers.  We do not say we will miss church for 2 months straight.  We do not hope to be just functional partners who are really strangers with our spouse.  Be we end up at all those places.  And not because we jerk the wheel quickly, but because we slowly drift, and it is not checked.