I have read my fair share of leadership books. I have also read my fair share of biographies. I also do my best to understand people and what makes them succeed and tick. I have concluded that there are some random things that go into one succeeding. These are the things outside of a person’s control (the chance meeting, the right market condition, an inheritance, etc.). That said, there are a lot of very similar habits and traits of those that seem to deliver at a high level. I am certainly not the first to notice this. There are a zillion books written on this.
I want to focus on one of those key habits/ skills. It relates to the continued desire to be teachable and grow. The people I seem to admire most almost always are looking for ways to improve what they do. They evaluate. They review. They practice. But here is a big thing I see. These people invite people into their world for feedback. It sounds simple, but it is huge. They invite criticism. They invite compliments. They invite rebuke. They invite challenge. Simply put, they invite others to speak into their lives.
Are you able to let others speak into your life? Can your boss? Kids? Spouse? Friends? Do you invite people to help you? Are you teachable to others and their perception of you? I know I am asking myself these questions (in fact this is the catalyst for writing this). How about the other side? Are you honest with those you love? Do you speak into their lives?
How would your work improve if you invited colleagues to speak into your life? What about your marriage if your spouse could really open up to you? What is people had the freedom to discuss our parenting? Our friendships? Our financial decision making? Etc. Are you open to others help and do you help others?