Well this one will probably get me in some kind of trouble. I probably should not write as a form of venting, but in spite of my better judgment, here goes. Most of the time when I am speechless, it because I am witnessing something that is amazing in a good way. I am blown away by a thing or an act or a person in such a way where I am just like “wow, that is awesome.” But as I am reflecting today, I am speechless, because my mind is saying “wow, really, are you that naive?” Or maybe worse you do not care? Or maybe you are overestimating or whatever, but what ever the reason, I am like wow. And here is why…I just can not figure out what parents of teenagers are thinking.
Now before I go any further, let me say a couple of key things. I recognize I do not have teenagers and so it is easy to throw stones, but I do have kids and will be there some day. Secondly, what is true is true, whether I have teens or not. Thirdly, I am talking to Christians. Those parents who are part of God’s church and have given their lives to Christ and therefore are called by God to raise their kids in the ways of Christ. Fourthly, I acknowledge every home, every kid and every situation is different. Fifthly, I get there is no magic formula. You can do a lot of things right and still have things go wrong.
Now all that said…come on…I am speechless…lot and lots of high school kids drink, have sex, make poor decisions when left alone in a living room, only see the next 5 minutes, are not ready for certain environments and decisions, overestimate their personal strength to resist sin, and underestimate sin’s consequences, etc. Why are we repeatedly allowing and condoning them to be in situations that are just foolish? I understand you can not force kids to love God or be wise or even protect them from the world. But you are the parent….please behave accordingly. If you are not sure what to do -ask, read, pray, seek out Christians who are more mature than you. Please do not think because your life “worked out” that it will for them. There are consequences for what appear to be moments and environments that are going to pass. Is your kid really the exception each time? This may all seem harsh, but I just do not get it.
I believe in the potential of young people and care about so many kids and parents that I see dancing a very dangerous and foolish tango. And when I think about it, I just am left speechless. I do not see the wisdom in what so many are condoning, supporting and even helping with. Your kids need you. God is calling you as a parent to disciple your kid and point them to Christ all the time.
Please hear this as a loving plea to do what God has called Christian parents to do. I am in that boat and want to get it right myself. My heart is to encourage you to be honest and ask yourself if you are living distinctly than what the culture says. Grace must be given, but so must truth.